tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60217684855566697702024-03-12T17:39:19.016-07:00Straight ForwardKyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-27229163322685267652011-06-20T09:52:00.000-07:002011-06-20T10:07:04.254-07:00The world around meThe world has changed, it is not the same.<br />People are not loving, kind or compassionate. They are in church every Sunday and going to bible study every Wednesday.<br />But they won't volunteer to help you up off the ground if you fall.<br />Everyone wants to feel powerful and above others. The outside is more important than the inside. Babies are up on trends and parents grin. <br />Someone please remind me of the original sin!<br />drugs and alcohol has replaced water and meditation. overweight and diseased bodies are the norm. teenage pregnancy is accepted. black on black crime is expected. STD's are cool and dropping out of school DON'T make you a FOOL.<br /><br />to be continued...Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-83884092755215875822011-05-10T20:54:00.000-07:002011-05-10T21:14:36.325-07:00I Am My Child's TeacherDo we really feel that the public school system is giving our children the quality education they deserve? Or have we just been programmed to send our children to school even if they are not learning?<br />When will we take educating our children seriously? I feel that Black children are not excelling in school because they are not being taught the truth! They are being taught by black teachers that they were not the mothers and fathers of civilization. But can we blame a people for lack of knowledge? Not when your whole history has been erased and you were forced to learn a new way of life. So what do you do, how do we give our babies a knowledge of self when we as parents don’t know? Well, if we see that our child is good at a specific sport, we find a team to put them on. So if you’re raising a Black child in America we need our own school to put them in. Our children need to know their significance in this world. They are being programmed to be unproductive citizens, they are being programmed to hate themselves, they are being molded into teen parents, drop-outs and drug addicts. And this is happening at an alarming rate. Our children are the ones filling up the prisons, and the ones killing each other, if this is not a sign of Identity Crisis, I don’t know what is. If you never name a dog and stick him on a chain and feed him and give him water everyday, how can he be productive? He can’t! He can only be destructive. And that is what’s happening to our beautiful, brilliant race. We have been brought to a strange land and have accepted the fact that we are a color instead of a race! So if a dog is simply called a dog it will answer to anything and follow anybody because it has no knowledge of self.<br />But if you raise that dog to know that he is a German Shepherd and treat him as such, then he will act accordingly. If we knew that we came from wealth, power and royalty, other races envy us and are continuing to plot to destroy our very livelihood and existence, would we act in the manner in which we act today? Probably not! WHY is that everybody hates us when we have never bothered anybody? Isn’t that strange, people will go out of their way to oppress and enslave a people for hundreds of years for no reason. Why isn’t that statement alone raising eyebrows? Because we are being programmed to believe that racism is dead, we have equal rights and so on. But we know that’s a lie so why aren’t we doing something about it. Why is it that we know the truth but continue to live a lie! Everyone knows who we are except us. As long as we allow ourselves to be “dumbed down” and trampled on our children will do the same. Until we start the process of de-programming and educating ourselves we will never be the great power nation that we really are. It’s imperative that we teach our children the truth…that we are the chosen people, we are the original people and as long as the oppressors are able to keep us occupied with lies and nonsense, we will never know and this curse will never be broken.Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-33301735445995563362011-05-08T08:00:00.000-07:002011-05-08T08:07:49.002-07:00Something Is HappeningHave you every had that dreadful feeling, that something is about to happen? It is!<br />Your physical body is going through a change that your mind is not quite ready to accept. It will, be persistent!<br />You are feeling lost and confused. You are!<br />You don't know which way turn. Just be still!<br />You feel hopeless and helpless. You're not!<br />People are disappearing. Let them go!<br />You feel as if you're losing your mind. You are, but get ready for a new one!!!!Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-82956918468520728612011-05-07T13:46:00.000-07:002011-05-07T13:51:36.974-07:00ChangesI have spent my life trying to define me<br />Who I am and <br />What I’ve grown to be.<br />What is this way <br />That I’m feeling<br />I know I’m not happy <br />and I know I’m not sad <br />I'm feeling blue and life’s a drag<br />Trying to see what sub group I fit in <br />And testing them out from time to time.<br />None were me, <br />But who was I, <br />I was still trying to see.<br />Finding something and sticking to it was always hard for me to do.<br />For the world changes every second,<br />So hell why not me too!Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-21540774081544927352009-10-17T09:34:00.000-07:002009-10-17T09:35:45.724-07:00Know Your Role and Your WorthRole reversals in the black community is something that is all too familiar. Our households have consisted of absent fathers and drug addicted mothers for so long that we do not know our positions and better yet how to play them. Mothers have been forced to be fathers, daughter forced to be mothers and grandparents forced to be parents. We have a major problem in our community not only do we not know our role we do not know our worth. Women are looked at as sex objects instead of wives and mothers. Real men are looked down upon and boys are put in the position of men; meaning, a hardworking, respectful brother is looked at as lame but, the drug dealing, pants sagging, big rims having brother is looked at as the real man. We are truly confused! <br /> Women first have to understand who they are. If women shape up society will shape up. Think about this, if there were no women to play the role as the “video girl” in music videos what do you think will happen? Will the artist just forget about the video or will they change it to fit more respectable women? When we wear clothes that are too little, too tight and mimic celebrities we wreak of low self esteem we would rather copy someone else style than find our own. We are so insecure that we would show every part of our body first rather than leave a little mystery so when approached by a guy we know it’s not because he seen our butt cheeks hanging out of a pair of shorts or a dress.<br /> Men you have to start loving yourself enough to know that women are not the enemy. We have a generation of self-hating, irresponsible, fake, wanna-be men! You walk around with your pants hanging off your butt, a mouth full of gold teeth, a beat up car with RIMS and a system, flea market jewelry and you bobbin your head to songs like ballin! You don’t even have a house of your own, a job or money in the bank. If you aren’t the biggest lie I ever seen I don’t know what is. And women fall for the lie over and over again. We are so caught up in this Matrix that we can’t decipher real from fake if it’s standing right in front of us. Why is that? Simply because we hate ourselves and we are so scared to look inward for what we are searching for outward. As women we hold the position of being the giver and sustainer of life so why are we allowing ourselves to be used and abused by the very beings we birth into the world. As men you are the protectors and providers so why are women housing, clothing and feeding you! We have to get it together and become the power race that every great book talks about and every other race is afraid of!Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-60107613179915840742009-10-17T09:31:00.000-07:002009-10-17T09:33:58.939-07:00You need A Check-UpEveryone longs for companionship, it's human nature. But when we get a companion how do we treat them? Do we treat them with love and respect, are we honest, do we trust them? Probably not! <br /> We nag, accuse, snoop, start false arguments and disrespect our so called loved ones just to satisfy, unbeknownst to us, our temporary insanity. Your better half may get a phone call where they fail to mention a name and oh boy there goes the attitude. <br /> We want a significant other but when we get them they become punching bags for our blows of insecurity. We have to first understand that we are not perfect, so people are entitled to make mistakes. When we go into a relationship looking for the bad, nine times out of ten we are going to find “the bad.” If we go into a relationship looking for the good, we will find “the good.” <br /> We must release past relationship garbage! I know it can be hard, but it’s worth it if you’re trying to find that special someone. Most people don’t even know the real reason they get into relationships. For many, it’s because they’re scared or embarrassed to be alone. But honestly that’s what we all need, some alone time. <br /> After each relationship whether it was a good one or bad one we have to give ourselves a check-up, not the kind where you go to the doctor, which may not be a bad idea depending on the type of relationship you had, but the kind where you re-evaluate yourself. <br /> Well how do I do that, you may ask? It’s simple. You just have to get reacquainted with yourself. Whether we know it or not a relationship can do one or two things: bring you up or pull you down. And when it’s over, we have to determine our damage. Some people can walk away without a scratch and others are not so lucky. But regardless of the damage, pat yourself on the back because you have made the first step and for some the hardest. You decided to leave! <br /> The second step is getting to know you again. This is the fun part because you are building a relationship with yourself. Once you have a sense of self you gain a new found freedom built around your wants, needs and desires. Once you do this you can then determine what you will and will not accept in a relationship. <br />Now the third step is a matter of reflection. You have to determine what went wrong in the last relationship, what did you gain, what did you lose, did you grow or did you regress if you determine this now you can go into your next relationship on a clean slate and a little wiser. If you fail to do this, you will find yourself comparing your new partner with your old one and more than likely falling back into the same kind of relationship. <br />After you have done your reflecting, it’s time to set your standards- not six months into a relationship. It’s a matter of knowing what you want and getting what you deserve.Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-16883665133985465812008-11-17T12:18:00.000-08:002008-11-17T12:21:16.919-08:00Remember the past, dont re-live it!You really don’t know how much you love a person until their gone. But when their gone, we have to move on.<br />My grandfather died on November 27, 2002, it was the day before Thanksgiving and five days after his 66th birthday, which was Nov. 22. I was a freshman in college when he passed, he got up and drove me to school every morning and picked me up every evening. I couldn’t have asked for a better grandfather. His name was Winfield Akers Jr., his friends called him Pig.<br />That morning in Nov. was cold and dry. My phone rang and my grandmother’s name and number appeared on the caller ID, it was around 7am. I thought she was calling to tell me they (she and my grandfather) were on their way to pick me up for school. But instead I heard frantic sobbing and the words that stopped my heart for what seemed like eternity, “I think your daddy dead.” It was my grandmother, screaming and crying. <br />My grandfather was a very reserved yet friendly man. He was big in stature and in integrity. He loved his family and we loved him. <br /> I know how hard the holidays can be for families who have lost loved ones or have loved ones that’s incarcerated or even both. And when going through these difficult times we tend to have regrets about what we coulda, shoulda and woulda did. While clinging to the dead we’re neglecting the living.<br /> Understand that GOD don’t make no mistakes, so thank him for all that you have been through whether good or bad, happy or sad and know that if it don’t kill you it only makes you stronger. Your life was made uniquely for you and God don’t make no junk!<br />Let’s learn to let go of all past hurts, focus on the present and embrace the future.Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-3316425536029540962008-11-17T12:16:00.000-08:002008-11-17T12:18:26.385-08:00Put the burden on your own shoulders!We have elected the first black man to become President of the United States. <br />Now we see what happens when we work together and stand for something.<br />People really got out and fought to put Obama in office. Others to keep him out. Regardless of which side you were on, the hard work and dedication was powerful. <br />But does that stop now? We got him in office. He can do all the rest, right? Wrong! <br />Now is the time that Unity could not be preached more. We are going through so many things as a nation, not to mention our personal lives, that it would be detrimental to be divided right now. <br />We all have an important role to play. Just like we got out and registered people to vote, just like we walked and knocked on doors, just like we called people on the phone rallying up votes for Obama. <br />Let’s use that same dedication and determination to clean up our communities, become more involved in our children’s schools, become better steward of our finances, and, most of all, become better at uniting our families. <br />Remember, Obama can only do so much. W1e have to do the rest!Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-89551436231637907062008-09-30T11:22:00.000-07:002008-09-30T11:24:59.825-07:00The New BreedThis is an article that was printed in the November 12, 1964 edition of JET Magazine entitled: <em>“Black Man As U.S. President Prediction For Future Decade,” By John H. Britton<br /> Though Irving Wallace, in his book The Man, dreamed a wild dream (his critics call it a nightmare) that placed a Negro President in the White House, the wide-awake author appears deadly serious when he predicts a Negro American’s succession to the presidency within three decades. <br /> “I hesitate to say flatly that a Negro will be in the White House as President. But I will say that the possibility of a Negro Vice President is definitely not far-fetched. The world climate may be such that political expediency will demand a Negro in the White House. And even within the next ten years, I believe a Negro Secretary of the State is possible; and you know that’s up in the line of presidential succession.”<br /> The whole fantastic ideas is contained in Wallace’s run-away best-seller, The Man, the story of Douglas Dilman, as a Negro President of the United States, struggling to think and act like a President, like a man, and move away from the ghetto-thinking that America and Americans have forced upon him because of his race.<br />Because of his admitted sparse knowledge about the Negro, Wallace balked at predicting the Negro who may finally emerge as President. He does speculate, however, that the man will more likely come from without the area of current Negro political leadership, “unless, of course, a new breed becomes dominant.” Said Wallace, still speculating to JET: “I don’t know many Negro politicians or civil rights leaders. I do think, though, that men like Franklin Williams (UNESCO Ambassador) or Whitney Young (Urban League director) would easily fit the job. Of course, there will always be political expediencies to dictate any selection. But men like these, I believe, are qualified for President.” <br />It was Williams, then a Peace Corps executive, who encouraged Wallace’s book idea because, Wallace quoted him as saying, Williams believes strongly that world political climate will soon demand a negro at the highest executive level of the nation…</em><br /><br /> Is Senator Barack Obama this so-called “New Breed?” And if he is, where do this leave us as black people? What do we expect to happen if Barack is the next President of the United States? We have gotten so wrapped up in skin color and making history that we don’t even see the problem at hand, which is Us! Barack can’t stop a person from killing their whole family, or from killing someone else’s family, He also can’t stop, a shoot-out at a club that leave several people seriously injured. Neither can he make sure that children are at home at night, instead of at a club (where they are responsible for killing another child), nor can he assure you that there will be no more deaths of children due to playing with guns. He can’t guarantee a decrease in the teen drop-out rate, teen pregnancy or the numbers of black men going to prison. And all of these things are happening in our neighborhood. If Barack is elected as the next President of the United States, that is a huge leap for American History and for African American History. But are we making history as a people?Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-56673931273236246462008-01-18T14:13:00.000-08:002008-01-18T12:15:54.038-08:00What about our kids.Let’s take our children back to the good ole days…<br />When families ate and prayed together.<br />When children did not have a choice in what was cooked for dinner.<br />When children had to be in the house before the streetlight came on.<br />When children did not engage in adult conversations.<br />When the first thing you did when you got home from school was take off your school clothes and do your homework. <br />When children ate a hot breakfast at home each morning.<br />When children were actually scared of their parents.<br />When needs came before wants.<br />When children went to church every Sunday.<br />When parents knew their child’s every move.<br /><br />Now let’s compare the old days to today…<br />Now everyone eats when he or she wants, and where he or she wants.<br />Now children tell their parents what they like and dislike.<br />Now when the streetlight comes on the children go out.<br />Now children join in adult conversations.<br />Now children are up at 10:00 p.m. doing homework, still wearing their school clothes.<br />Now children have to make it to school before breakfast is over in order to eat.<br />Now parents are trying to be their children’s friends instead of their parents.<br />Now the new Jordan’s are bought before the light bill is paid.<br />Now children only go to church on Easter to show off their new clothes.<br />Now when you ask a parent where their children are their response is simply “outside somewhere.”<br /><br />Parents are giving children too much freedom. A child does not know what is good or bad for him/her, that is call. We are giving children the responsibility of parents.<br />We are now living in a society where teenage pregnancy is common, fatherless households are normal, drug addicted mothers are no surprise. Children today are practically raising themselves and it’s not fair to them, these children are missing out on the most important years of their lives due to poor parenting skills.<br />When I was coming up you never heard about child abuse cases better yet a parent killing their own child, now that too is common in our society. <br />Our children emulate rap videos and have dreams to become rappers, what happened to becoming doctors and lawyers? How did we get this way? What happened? Where did we go wrong? Of course we all have questions that we may never know the answer to? But this is my question to all “What are we going to do about it.”Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021768485556669770.post-10902724129461320422008-01-17T07:55:00.000-08:002008-01-17T07:57:35.061-08:00How To Keep Your New Years ResolutionWe all have New Year’s Resolutions, but not all of us stick to them. The main reason we fail at keeping our resolutions is because we don’t have a plan. So I’m going to give you 10 easy steps to help you keep your resolutions.<br /><br />1. Start Small<br /> Instead of giving something up completely, try cutting back.<br /><br />2. Remember nobody’s perfect so set realistic and achievable goals <br />Trying to look like a super model is not realistic for the majority of us, but to include daily physical activity in our lives is.<br /><br />3. Understand that slip-ups are not the end of the world<br />Everyone makes mistakes. Resolutions can be set at anytime.<br /><br />4. Create a plan<br />People forget, paper remembers. Write your resolutions down and put it somewhere you will always see it, that way you will be constantly reminded of the goal at hand.<br /><br />5. Patience<br />Everything takes time. Remember great things come to those who wait.<br /><br />6. Reward Yourself<br />Whether you buy yourself a new outfit or treat yourself to a full body massage, reward yourself after each week or month of keeping your resolution.<br /><br />7. Do not spread yourself too thin<br />Don’t pile yourself up with resolutions limit your number of promises. Trying to make multiple changes in your life will only result in the failure of all your resolutions.<br /><br />8. Don’t be afraid to seek help<br />Whether it’s professional or just friends and family. Let people know about the changes you are trying to make in your life that way you will be constantly reminded of what you are trying to accomplish.<br /><br />9. Embrace change<br />Understand that things happen unexpectedly and just embrace it even if that means your resolution is altered.<br /><br />10. Keep a journal<br />Write down your achievements and your slip-ups so you would know exactly where you stand with your resolutions.<br /><br />Good Luck!Kyokahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11562203102052922906noreply@blogger.com0